Unheard… (via Fight for Justice)

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Superb portrayal of the typical social attitudes towards issues of domestic violence.
DV is NOT gender specific… Anyone and everyone can be a victim of DV in home, every human being in a domestic relationship deserves protection against the perpetrator!

A short film by Rishiraj Mistry challenging the social stereotypes around genders.  This movie won the 1st Runner Up at “Hot Shorts 3” competition. See it to hear it. Read More

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Rape often isn’t a crime when women do it

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Women Raping Men

By RICHARD MORGAN

Five years ago, a few months before his first semester at Ohio State, Nick (not his real name) lost his virginity on the floor of a dark living room, surrounded by sleeping party goers. “She told a lot of people she was going to fuck me,” says Nick, 23, sitting in a booth at the Blue Danube, a greasy spoon in his hometown of Columbus, Ohio. “She gave me a lot of vodka and she did it. I was barely awake. But I remember — it was so weird — she said, ‘Look, I’m either going to fuck you or go to the kitchen and fuck a cucumber.'”

He was too drunk to remember the hows of what followed, but he knows there was no condom, no consent, and, at first, no problem.

The next morning, “I woke up and I’m like, ‘Holy shit! I must be in love,'” Nick says. “And she says, ‘Get real. I was just fucking you.'”

Upon suffering a variety of emotional problems Nick sought counseling, and it was then that he came to believe that in losing his virginity he had become not a man but a victim of rape.

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NCW wastes taxpayer’s money – Shut it down

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See the below news,

Audit raps NCW for huge backlog, spendthrift ways

And the chairperson, Dr. Vyas cites, “lack of manpower” as excuse.

Now, already the existing short manpower is spending extra-money, one can only imagine the splurge with more “manpower”.

When will the NCW stop fooling the nation?

Already the uncalled for “Male-Hatred” that the NCW is spreading is contributing to 58000 husbands committing suicide every year and every 9 mins a married man succumbing to social injustices spearheaded by the NCW.

Not only that in the last 5 years (2004-2008) 160,00o innocent women (mothers, sisters and other female relatives of husbands) have been arrested, without trial or investigation, under the dubious Section 498A – totally unconstitutional law and subject to widespread misuse.

Has the NCW been created to spread injustices in the society?

Will this Govt. answer this question?

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WCD Ministry runs away from e-Mails

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Looks like WCD (Ministry of Women and Child Development) has closed their email shop suddenly. Till recently this official mail ID <wcd@nic.in> was working fine… But today I suddenly got this bounce back from them:


From: Mail Delivery System <MAILER-DAEMON@vastu12internal.nic.in>
Date: Sun, Jan 24, 2010 at 1:31 PM
Subject: Delivery Status Notification (Failure)
To: <my mail id>

The following message to <wcd@nic.in> was undeliverable.
The reason for the problem:
5.4.7 – Delivery expired (message too old) [Default] 451-‘4.2.1 mailbox temporarily disabled: wcd@nic.in

Final-Recipient: rfc822;wcd@nic.in
Action: failed
Status: 5.0.0 (permanent failure)
Remote-MTA: dns; [192.168.1.70]
Diagnostic-Code: smtp; 5.4.7 – Delivery expired (message too old) [Default] 451-‘4.2.1 mailbox temporarily disabled: wcd@nic.in‘ (delivery attempts: 76)


I’m not alone… a friend of mine got a similar one too:


From: Mail Delivery System <MAILER-DAEMON@vastu9internal.nic.in>
Date: Sun, Jan 24, 2010 at 10:14 PM
Subject: Delivery Status Notification (Failure)
To: <his mail id>

The following message to <wcd@nic.in> was undeliverable.
The reason for the problem:
5.4.7 – Delivery expired (message too old) [Default] 451-‘4.2.1 mailbox temporarily disabled: wcd@nic.in

Final-Recipient: rfc822;wcd@nic.in
Action: failed
Status: 5.0.0 (permanent failure)
Remote-MTA: dns; [192.168.1.20]
Diagnostic-Code: smtp; 5.4.7 – Delivery expired (message too old) [Default] 451-‘4.2.1 mailbox temporarily disabled: wcd@nic.in‘ (delivery attempts: 76)


I wonder what could be the reason of shying away form the netizens like this!

Men’s Rights Activist openly threatened on live TV Show

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Below complaint shows the anarchy India is going through currently. If the woman’s organization are so sure about their causes why are they getting insecure about men’s issues being highlighted in the media?

How are abused men a threat to the existence of women’s organizations that they have stooped this low to run their “Shops of Women’s Rights?”

Or is it that the wrong representations they make about women’s (read wives’) victimization will be exposed by men’s rights movements and they will stop receiving funds?

Are they more concerned about their funds than social issues and women?


———- Forwarded message ———-

From: Uma Challa
Date: Wed, Oct 21, 2009 at 9:41 PM
Subject: My complaint
21 October, 2009

To
SHO
Sanjeeva Reddy Nagar PS

Sir,

I am the President of All India Forgotten Women (Regd.). Our organization is observing October as “Domestic Violence Awareness Month”. As part of this campaign, we launched two organizations – 1) All India Men’s Welfare Association and 2) Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association. The news about the launch of Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association has been covered widely by the print media as well as several TV Channels. TV5 invited me for a live show “Snehita” today, 21 October 2009, between 2:15 to 3:00 pm. One of the callers, seemingly a follower of V. Sandhya, President of POW, abused me over the phone for launching the organization and for debating on TV with V. Sandhya. She also threatened me to close the organization.

I fear danger to my life and limb from V. Sandhya’s followers, and I request you to please provide me protection. I also request you to please investigate into the matter, and take appropriate action against the offenders. The origin of the call, phone number of the caller and recording of the show should be available.

with TV5. I would also like to state that should any harm occur to my life or limb the above mentioned followers of Sandhya should be held responsible for it.

Sincerely,

Uma Challa
President All India Forgotten Women (Regd.)

Cc:
Director General of Police, AP
Commissioner of Police, Hyderabad
Commissioner of Police, Cyberabad


Further questions to those Women’s Organizations are:

  1. Did they ever helped any Mother-in-law who had been to problems because of a daughter-in-law?
  2. Is there any example that they can show where-in a daughter-in-law has been punished by any Court of India even after the Court’s Judgment is that, Mother-in-law was innocent and it was the daughter-in-law who caused the problems?
  3. Can they support any Mother-in-law if that Mother-in-law complains against her daughter-in-law with Proofs, I repeat with Proofs? What kind of punishment they suggest for that daughter-in-law? Can they agree for the same kind of punishment in a reverse scenario? Can they see a woman in that Mother-in-law?

Press Release: Launching Andhra Pradesh Mother-in-law Protection Association

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Launch of Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association (APMPA)

Venue: Public Gardens, Opposite Jubilee Hall, Hyderabad, AP

Date and Time: 18 October 2009, 11:00 a.m. to 1:00 p.m.

Written by Uma Challa

Mothers-in-law in our country are being severely discriminated against, neglected and subjected to all forms of domestic abuse over the last decade. Unless provisions are made to protect mothers-in-law from discrimination, domestic violence, and legal harassment, and unless steps are taken to ensure their welfare during their post-menopausal years, we will witness serious deterioration in the health conditions of aging women in the country, and reduction in their life span.

Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association (APMPA) is the first ever social forum created to protect the rights and interests of mothers-in-law in Andhra Pradesh. APMPA is the Andhra Pradesh chapter of All India Mothers-in-law Protection Forum (http://www.aimpf.org) which was launched on 6 September 2009 in Bangalore, followed by the launch of local chapters in Delhi, Nagpur and Lucknow.

Mothers-in-law have historically been portrayed as evil and bloodthirsty by media and popular culture. However, it is a scientifically and also statistically established fact that mothers-in-law are unnecessarily maligned and subjected to discrimination by the society.

The National Family Health Survey (NFHS) (http://www.nfhsindia.org Vol-1 Page 500) has conclusively established that a woman in the age group of 15-49 years of age faces 8 times more violence from her own mother compared to her mother-in-law. 13.7% women have faced violence from their own mother as compared to 1.7% women who have faced from their mothers-in-law.

Recent Research has shown that “daughters-in-law are programmed to hate mothers-in-law”. This is one of the most important causes of the stereotyping of mothers-in-law in the society.

Mothers-in-law are being discriminated against in spite of their generosity just for the sin of giving birth to sons and getting them married. They are being forced to part with their earnings, savings and inherited wealth and they are being thrown out of their own property at the behest of a disgruntled daughter-in-law. They are losing their mental peace and health, and many a time even their husbands and sons to untimely death or suicide when daughters-in-law indulge in making false allegations and defamation of the husband’s family. In many instances, the mothers-in-law themselves commit suicide.

Mothers -in-law in India face severe abuse from daughters-in-law:

  • Physical harassment including assault, locking up the mother-in-law in a room, denying food and medication etc.
  • Mental harassment including taunts, allegations, caustic comments, threatening to file police cases, disallowing communication with her son, grandchildren, defaming her and her family etc.
  • Verbal harassment including name calling, insulting, abusing, etc.
  • Economic abuse including extorting her money and wealth, throwing her out of her own house and forcibly occupying the house, etc.
  • Legal harassment including inciting the police to threaten her, filing false cases under Dowry Prohibition Act, IPC Section 498A, Domestic Violence Act, and other related sections, sending her to jail or forcing her to run around the court for years together.
  • Driving mothers-in-law to commit suicide.

The National Family Health Survey, conducted by the Ministry of Family Health and Welfare only counts women between the ages of 15-49 as women. Mothers-in-law who fall in the age bracket above 49 do not count as women, and their health and welfare is not a matter of concern for the Government of India.

While there are close to 15 laws that provide protection to daughters-in-law, mothers-in-law do not have any societal support or legal protection from any form of discrimination or abuse.

In the last four years, over 1,23,497 women, most of them being mothers-in-law, have been arrested under IPC Section 498A alone, without evidence or investigation, not for committing any crime under law, but only because they were related to a man.

Noted women’s rights activist Madhu Kishwar acknowledged that IPC Section 498A is heavily misused, and that a significant proportion of individuals who approach “Manushi” these days are mothers-in-law and husbands who are falsely accused of marital cruelty and dowry harassment.

Renowned IPS officer Kiran Bedi admitted that many poor and illiterate mothers-in-law, who are falsely charged under anti-dowry laws, are languishing in prison every year.

Several elderly women, falsely accused under IPC Section 498A (for the only crime of mothering sons and getting the sons married) approached the National Commission for Women, seeking justice. These women have long heart-rending accounts of how they are being harassed by their daughters-in-law. The NCW’s short, yet prompt and candid response to these mothers was, “Your matter does not fall under the mandate of the Commission”.

Similarly, in June 2009, a 45 year old mother-in-law was arrested in a dowry harassment case filed by her daughter-in-law. The poor lady was allegedly gang-raped in police custody, in Bhopal. The news, which was reported in leading newspapers, went completely unnoticed by the NCW or any other women’s organization that harps about fighting atrocities against women. No panel was set up. No probe was initiated and no action has been taken against this brutality perpetrated against a mother-in-law.

On 8 October 2009, a news report described the gut-wrenching tale of a 75-year-old mother-in-law, Jiwan Devi, who is another victim of societal and legal bias against mothers-in-law. Holding back her tears, here is what she said to the journalist who visited her:

“What is the point?…I and my sons were in jail for four years before we were acquitted. And my grandchildren were at the mercy of our neighbours and distant relatives. Why?… My granddaughter is 19. While all her friends are in college, she is still in class 11. This happened only because there was no one to take care of them while we were in jail. They were also in deep shock”’

There are thousands of Jiwan Devis in this country, whose lives have been destroyed, just for having given life to sons. These are the women whose woes do not fall under the agenda of the Ministry for Women and Child Development, the National Commission for Women, or any other related women’s organization, and they have nowhere to go to seek help and support for problems specifically affecting them.

APMPA will work towards the protection and welfare of such mothers-in-law in distress by creating awareness, giving them moral support and counseling. We will also urge the government to reform the present “wife-centric” domestic violence laws and demand equal protection for mothers-in-law from domestic violence.

The helpline numbers of the Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association are 9704683163, 9573605415. Mothers-in-law facing harassment from their daughters-in-law can contact these numbers.

Which idiot says the DV Act is misused?

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Day in and Day out, we get to hear so many cases of the women-centric laws being misused. Be it the 498A or the PWDVA (Commonly known as the DV Act), everyone around alleges that these laws are being misused by the legal terrorists to terrorize their husbands and their families and using them as Free ATM Machines.

However, a critical study of this PWDVA law itself, makes me wonder; is this law really being misused at all? Surprised? Let me give you some grounds to think…

  • The act is made to provide relief ONLY to the married women in a domestic setup.
  • It’s one of the only laws that are entirely drafted and finalized by Lawyers, and not the legislation. This seems to me like a lock designed by a team of thiefs; and you expect that lock to be theft-proof.
  • This law is also famous as being a clumsy copy of the notorious VAWA law of the US, which is under a lot of criticism already. Even otherwise this law is a direct offshoot from the US sponsorship towards breakage of Indian Family system.
  • This law defines Domestic Violence as anything that the wife feels as a cruelty towards her. It might include the husband not giving her money for Kitty Party, or even he calling her step brother an idiot.
  • The law provides the wife to accuse anyone in the domestic relationship, including 2 months old baby, 89 years old granny or an 8 months pregnant sister-in-law. And they’ll all be required to run from pillar to post in the Indian Courts for as long as the Complainant or the Judge wants.
  • The complainant under this act can ask for any amount of money from the husband as compensation. There’s no limits to her imagination.
  • The complainant can also ask for a “right to residence” in any house that she might have stayed with her husband, ever. In addition, she can also legally ask all the other residents in that house to evacuate it, on the pretext that she feels threatened by them.
  • The Complainant can file a case under this act at any time of her life, even after 12 years of her divorce from the accused (ex-) husband.
  • There is no penalty whatsoever for the complainant if the filed case is proven to be entirely false.
  • The Supreme Court of India has ruled very clearly that this Act is a Clumsily Drafted Law and so it should be scrapped.
  • This law is already declared as unconstitutional by the National Organization “Save Indian Family” in it’s National-level Shimla Meet 2009.

With all the above points about this particular act, don’t you think the law was specifically designed by the Lawyers Collective for the exact purpose to destroy the very fabric of the country?

Now that you know the background about this law, do you still think this law is being misused? I’d say not at all. The PWDVA, 2006 is actually Used properly for achieving it’s exact objective. The objective to destroy India and the Indian Family System, by destroying the very workforce of the country, i.e. the Men and their families.

So when a law is being used exactly as it was designed to be used, would you still call it a misuse? I’d not.

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