Rape often isn’t a crime when women do it

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Women Raping Men

By RICHARD MORGAN

Five years ago, a few months before his first semester at Ohio State, Nick (not his real name) lost his virginity on the floor of a dark living room, surrounded by sleeping party goers. “She told a lot of people she was going to fuck me,” says Nick, 23, sitting in a booth at the Blue Danube, a greasy spoon in his hometown of Columbus, Ohio. “She gave me a lot of vodka and she did it. I was barely awake. But I remember — it was so weird — she said, ‘Look, I’m either going to fuck you or go to the kitchen and fuck a cucumber.'”

He was too drunk to remember the hows of what followed, but he knows there was no condom, no consent, and, at first, no problem.

The next morning, “I woke up and I’m like, ‘Holy shit! I must be in love,'” Nick says. “And she says, ‘Get real. I was just fucking you.'”

Upon suffering a variety of emotional problems Nick sought counseling, and it was then that he came to believe that in losing his virginity he had become not a man but a victim of rape.

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Men’s Rights Activist openly threatened on live TV Show

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Below complaint shows the anarchy India is going through currently. If the woman’s organization are so sure about their causes why are they getting insecure about men’s issues being highlighted in the media?

How are abused men a threat to the existence of women’s organizations that they have stooped this low to run their “Shops of Women’s Rights?”

Or is it that the wrong representations they make about women’s (read wives’) victimization will be exposed by men’s rights movements and they will stop receiving funds?

Are they more concerned about their funds than social issues and women?


———- Forwarded message ———-

From: Uma Challa
Date: Wed, Oct 21, 2009 at 9:41 PM
Subject: My complaint
21 October, 2009

To
SHO
Sanjeeva Reddy Nagar PS

Sir,

I am the President of All India Forgotten Women (Regd.). Our organization is observing October as “Domestic Violence Awareness Month”. As part of this campaign, we launched two organizations – 1) All India Men’s Welfare Association and 2) Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association. The news about the launch of Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association has been covered widely by the print media as well as several TV Channels. TV5 invited me for a live show “Snehita” today, 21 October 2009, between 2:15 to 3:00 pm. One of the callers, seemingly a follower of V. Sandhya, President of POW, abused me over the phone for launching the organization and for debating on TV with V. Sandhya. She also threatened me to close the organization.

I fear danger to my life and limb from V. Sandhya’s followers, and I request you to please provide me protection. I also request you to please investigate into the matter, and take appropriate action against the offenders. The origin of the call, phone number of the caller and recording of the show should be available.

with TV5. I would also like to state that should any harm occur to my life or limb the above mentioned followers of Sandhya should be held responsible for it.

Sincerely,

Uma Challa
President All India Forgotten Women (Regd.)

Cc:
Director General of Police, AP
Commissioner of Police, Hyderabad
Commissioner of Police, Cyberabad


Further questions to those Women’s Organizations are:

  1. Did they ever helped any Mother-in-law who had been to problems because of a daughter-in-law?
  2. Is there any example that they can show where-in a daughter-in-law has been punished by any Court of India even after the Court’s Judgment is that, Mother-in-law was innocent and it was the daughter-in-law who caused the problems?
  3. Can they support any Mother-in-law if that Mother-in-law complains against her daughter-in-law with Proofs, I repeat with Proofs? What kind of punishment they suggest for that daughter-in-law? Can they agree for the same kind of punishment in a reverse scenario? Can they see a woman in that Mother-in-law?

Sabah, 16 Aug 2009. Page 20

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Sexual Harassment Bill to contain misuse clause !!!

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Finally, SIF’s voice is not only being heard but also been given due consideration.After relentless pressure on Law Ministry, the misuse clause in the proposed “Protection of Women from Sexual Harassment Bill” is going to be included. This is just a small victory for SIF, as we have a long way to go.

It was not at all an easy win. WCD, NCW and Lawyer’s Collective tried their best to thwart the effort. They even recommended to delete the Clause 12, that deals with punishment for the women who misuse Sexual Harassment at Work Place law. It really amuses me with the kind of logic these feminists use. The proposed bill offers redressal measures for women employee at workplaces who have been victim of sexual harassment. The procedures defines that the organisaton will have an internal committee that will look after such cases and guilty will be punished as per their defined service rules. When talking of misuse, these feminists say Indian Penal Code contains provisions to deal with misuse of law. The need is to strengthen it. It is really laughable, when the law in itself is not covered by IPC, how come IPC section come into play when there is misuse. Law Ministry has rightly dismissed the logic.

This brings to an important aspect. 498A, 304 B and DV Act are separate provisions, dealing specifically with grievances of a wife. Aren’t these greivences covered under IPC. We have extortion law for demand for dowry, murder law for dowry death and hurt law for domestic violence. Where has their logic of strengthening IPC gone ? Why do they want a separate law when issues of wife are concerned ?

When it comes to misuse of law, they talk about provision already in IPC and when it comes to cruelty on wife, they want a separate law even when IPC provides for it. This could only be to meet specific agenda of extorting under the legal framework.

Legalised Extortion, a la feminist style.

Legal Terrorism and Illegitimate Legislation

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In recent years, the number of abusers of women protection legislation for personal gain or to settle scores has gone up substantially. Concomitantly, the numbers of false cases, the incidents of malfeasance, illegal detentions, police and judicial corruption as well as the backlog of unresolved cases have also skyrocketed. The trend shows no signs of waning. What makes this process so easy and convenient for the criminally minded individuals, families and state officials? The answer lies in the active state support and participation in this nefarious scheme of “legal terrorism”. While this state participation is occurring at the expense of the well-being of ordinary, law abiding citizens who have not violated any laws, the parasitic elements of the society like unethical lawyers, fund chasing and morally bankrupt feminists, lowly judiciary and corrupt police officials are immensely benefiting from this pernicious practice.

– What is the root cause for the proliferation of state sponsored legal terrorism in our country?

– Would the state sponsored legal terrorism cast its shadow in ever more areas of our public and private lives?

– Should the citizens be resigned to this state of affairs?

– What is the prognosis for the future?

In this article, I will attempt to address some of the concerns raised above.

Root Cause of Legal Terrorism is Illegitimate Legislation

The root cause of the state sponsored legal terrorism is the existence and passage of illegitimate legislation in our legal regime. Most reasonable and objective persons can quickly tell right from wrong and fair from unfair.  Thus most reasonable and objective people can also tell apart a legitimate law from an illegitimate one.

There can be several bases on which one can conclude a certain legislation to be illegitimate. However, most illegitimate legislation is identified by the following five characteristics –

Discriminatory

According the Universal Declaration of Human Rights, “all are equal before the law, and are entitled without any discrimination to equal protection of the law”. Any laws that are explicitly or implicitly discriminatory are illegitimate. Any demagogue would be tempted to play vote bank politics and pass discriminatory legislation that can rob the non-vocal minority off its legitimate protections that are hallmarks of any civilized society. In most civilized countries, constitution places limits on the illegitimate laws passed by the demagogues. For example, in the United States, any discriminatory legislation could be shot down by the Supreme Court of the US as unconstitutional if challenged. Such protections do not appear to exist in India. At least, the Supreme Court has not displayed the courage to declare discriminatory legislation as unconstitutional. Most of the ostensibly women protection laws in our country (like PWDVA, adultery laws, alimony laws) are discriminatory and thus illegitimate.

Presumption of guilt

As the jurisprudence evolved over the centuries, it has become an universally accepted maxim that an accused person is innocent until proven guilty. It is always the responsibility of the accuser to prove the guilt. In modern India, this maxim has been subverted thoroughly. In the name of special protections, the accusers have been given free pass to accuse any person at their fancy. The state, in turn, has assumed the proxy role to prosecute the accused at the taxpayer’s expense while placing the burden of proving innocence on individual citizen. This is a monumental distortion of principles of justice. Any legislation that presumes the accused as guilty until proven innocent is illegitimate. The best examples are ipc304B and ipc498A.

Summary action

Legislation that allows summary action by the judges or other officials is also illegitimate. Summary action may include confiscation, imprisonment or other penalties. Watch out summary provisions in any legislation to declare it as an illegitimate legislation. PWDVA is the best example.

Multiple laws to confer the same benefit

Many a time, in spite of the existence of legal provisions addressing certain benefits under law, new laws are passed conferring the same benefit. This results in unscrupulous elements filing multiple cases under these differing legal provisions for the same benefit, thereby flooding the court system with frivolous and vexatious litigation. The best example of this practice is the alimony and maintenance laws like 125 Cr PC, Section 24 of HMA and PWDVA.

Based on anachronistic assumptions

Society is constantly changing and evolving. Legislation passed hundreds of years ago under colonial rule may not have any relevance in the modern times. Such legislation must be scrapped and replaced with modern legislation that reflects the realities of the current state of our country and its citizens. If you come across shrill voices opposing changes to anachronistic legislation, please understand that is an illegitimate legislation still existing in our law books. It is time to agitate for changing such illegitimate anachronistic legislation. The best examples are the alimony and adultery laws in India wherein women are perpetually assumed to be victims even when they are the perpetrators.

The Real Victims

Who are the real victims of this legal terrorism?

Any unsuspecting individual who is compelled to defend oneself against charges under any illegitimate law automatically becomes a victim of that law. Law is a coercive state instrument. Inherent fairness is a fundamental pre-requisite for the citizens to have faith in the law. When the law fails the test of fairness, individuals charged under that law become victims of state sponsored legal terrorism. In those circumstances, the guilt or innocence of the individual becomes irrelevant. Do not inquire into the guilt or innocence of the individual when that individual is on the receiving end of illegitimate laws. Extend compassion and support to them unconditionally.

Strategies to counter Legal Terrorism and Illegitimate Legislation

Reposing faith in democratic institutions to counteract the evil consequences of illegitimate legislation may not always produce results. In fact, democracy uncurbed by the constitutional limits, as is the case in present India, will always result in the passage of illegitimate legislation to safeguard the interests of vocal sections of the population. Further, corruption also plays a major role in the passage and preservation of such legislation. Once the vested interests become entrenched, the ordinary citizens become powerless in the face of massive state power and state sponsored legal terrorism.

Are we, the ordinary citizens, helpless against this state sponsored travesty? Or are there any ways in which we can counter this?

Here I am outlining some strategies that can be employed collectively by the civil society to counter this menace.

Counsel the victims

This is by far the most important strategy. When an individual is pitted against the massive state machinery, the morale of the individual takes a massive beating. In many cases, the victims of legal terrorism, overwhelmed by the odds of fighting the corrupt state machinery out to persecute them, end their lives. When such demoralized individuals come in contact with other victims, their feelings of powerlessness and hopelessness tend to be alleviated substantially. The mere act of listening to their sad plight gives them courage and strength to fight back against the injustice. Besides, the victims can learn from each other and support each other in various other ways. In fact, the common suffering will prove to be a strong bond that will result in lasting friendships. I implore all the victims reading this article to become counselors. (See above on “The Real Victims”)

Show contempt

As Mahatma Gandhi said, cooperating with evil is worse than the evil itself. The illegitimate legislation must be held in utmost contempt it rightly deserves. Just because it was passed by the parliament, it does not become legitimate if it has failed the test of fairness as discussed above. Pay particular attention to the shrill voices of vested interests that defend the illegitimate legislation.  Check on their backgrounds and understand how these vested interests stand to benefit from the existence of the illegitimate laws. Argue with them and expose them at every opportunity.

Spread awareness

Another related strategy is spreading awareness in the society about the existence of these illegitimate laws. Most of the victims of legal terrorism are caught unawares when a barrage of criminal and civil cases hits them like bolt of lightning from the blue skies. Until it happens to them, most citizens are blissfully ignorant of such laws. In fact, one of the main secrets of the propagators of illegitimate legislation is obfuscation. These propagators deliberately hide the most pernicious provisions they included in these laws in most open debates. As soon as the heat is turned up in any debate, they slip back in to platitudes and lies. The best example of this deception is “Karan Thapar vs Renuka Chaudhary” debate in which Renuka Chaudhary fell back to her rhetorical lies like “every minute a woman is burned for dowry” or something on those lines, when sustained questioning by Karan made her squirm.  One of the best weapons to fight the illegitimate laws and legal terrorism is spreading awareness. Internet will play a significant role in spreading awareness about illegitimate legislation.

Social boycott and ostracism

Finally, the most potent weapon to counter legal terrorism is the social boycott and ostracism of its perpetrators. Most relationships and transactions in our traditional society are carried out based on trust and reputation of the families. No sane person would like to enter into any marital relationship with a family who ruthlessly used the illegitimate legislation to unleash legal terrorism on another family.  Exposing the truth about the perpetrators of legal terrorism will be enough to caution other families that plan to enter into any kind of relationship with them.

Prognosis for the future

The strategies outlined above will prove to be the philosophical underpinnings for the resistance movements that will proliferate across the country to counter the menace of legal terrorism. Save Indian Family Foundation is the best example of such social resistance movement that is employing the above strategies successfully to counter the evil consequences of illegitimate women protection legislation in India.

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Men are committing suicides due to Domestic Violence

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Bangalore, 11 April: Canadian citizen of Indian origin Mr. Syed Makdoom committed suicide recently, unable to bear the pain of separation from his child by his estranged wife with whom he was involved in a custody dispute. He had been fighting a court battle since 2005 with estranged wife in Bangalore after misunderstandings cropped up between the two. As per Mr. Kumar Jahgirdar, President of Non Governmental Organization, “CRISP”, Makdoom committed suicide as he was unable to bear the mental torture meted out to him. On this, Panduram Katti, President, Save Indian Family Foundation, raised a point that there has been a phenomenal increase in suicides by men and this tells us that they are being tortured to a very high level.

As per statistics by National Crime Records Bureau analysis in the year 2007, 158,000 married men committed suicide in the last 11 years. Some Non Governmental Organizations believe that the main reason of increase of suicides of married men is the mental torture and harassment meted out to them. Jahgirdar receives a lot of cases where men are tortured. He said most of these cases are either cases where Domestic Violence Act has been misused against them or those cases where they are a victim of acute mental stress and depression in absence of any available channel of relief from Domestic Violence that they suffer from. Often the torture culminates in men’s suicides.

Panduram Katti also told that social problems like divorce and domestic disputes are increasing. Foundation did a nationwide survey on about 334 couples and found out that when it comes to confidence and strength, husbands are much weaker than their wives. This is manifested by their mental stress. As per Katti, this ultimately leads to suicide for many men.

Foundation member Virag, told that all over the country 158,000 married men have committed suicides in the last 11 years due to domestic violence. Especially after 1998 the suicide rate has shot up and risen by 40% he added. As per him, every week 50 cases are received by the Foundation. Karntaka Rakshana Vedike member Prem Kumari has said that every week she receives around 300 cases of domestic violence out of which 50-60 cases are of men facing domestic violence.

As per Jahgirdar, around 2 years back, Domestic Violence Act was passed by the Parliament, And after the enactment whether there has been a reduction in the number of incidents of domestic violence on women is a matter of research, however, men’s suicides have increased a lot and because of that men’s harassment coming to forth is a matter of concern.

Chris Rock – Women, Lies & Relationships

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