NCW wastes taxpayer’s money – Shut it down

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See the below news,

Audit raps NCW for huge backlog, spendthrift ways

And the chairperson, Dr. Vyas cites, “lack of manpower” as excuse.

Now, already the existing short manpower is spending extra-money, one can only imagine the splurge with more “manpower”.

When will the NCW stop fooling the nation?

Already the uncalled for “Male-Hatred” that the NCW is spreading is contributing to 58000 husbands committing suicide every year and every 9 mins a married man succumbing to social injustices spearheaded by the NCW.

Not only that in the last 5 years (2004-2008) 160,00o innocent women (mothers, sisters and other female relatives of husbands) have been arrested, without trial or investigation, under the dubious Section 498A – totally unconstitutional law and subject to widespread misuse.

Has the NCW been created to spread injustices in the society?

Will this Govt. answer this question?



Men’s Rights Activist openly threatened on live TV Show

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Below complaint shows the anarchy India is going through currently. If the woman’s organization are so sure about their causes why are they getting insecure about men’s issues being highlighted in the media?

How are abused men a threat to the existence of women’s organizations that they have stooped this low to run their “Shops of Women’s Rights?”

Or is it that the wrong representations they make about women’s (read wives’) victimization will be exposed by men’s rights movements and they will stop receiving funds?

Are they more concerned about their funds than social issues and women?

———- Forwarded message ———-

From: Uma Challa
Date: Wed, Oct 21, 2009 at 9:41 PM
Subject: My complaint
21 October, 2009

Sanjeeva Reddy Nagar PS


I am the President of All India Forgotten Women (Regd.). Our organization is observing October as “Domestic Violence Awareness Month”. As part of this campaign, we launched two organizations – 1) All India Men’s Welfare Association and 2) Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association. The news about the launch of Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association has been covered widely by the print media as well as several TV Channels. TV5 invited me for a live show “Snehita” today, 21 October 2009, between 2:15 to 3:00 pm. One of the callers, seemingly a follower of V. Sandhya, President of POW, abused me over the phone for launching the organization and for debating on TV with V. Sandhya. She also threatened me to close the organization.

I fear danger to my life and limb from V. Sandhya’s followers, and I request you to please provide me protection. I also request you to please investigate into the matter, and take appropriate action against the offenders. The origin of the call, phone number of the caller and recording of the show should be available.

with TV5. I would also like to state that should any harm occur to my life or limb the above mentioned followers of Sandhya should be held responsible for it.


Uma Challa
President All India Forgotten Women (Regd.)

Director General of Police, AP
Commissioner of Police, Hyderabad
Commissioner of Police, Cyberabad

Further questions to those Women’s Organizations are:

  1. Did they ever helped any Mother-in-law who had been to problems because of a daughter-in-law?
  2. Is there any example that they can show where-in a daughter-in-law has been punished by any Court of India even after the Court’s Judgment is that, Mother-in-law was innocent and it was the daughter-in-law who caused the problems?
  3. Can they support any Mother-in-law if that Mother-in-law complains against her daughter-in-law with Proofs, I repeat with Proofs? What kind of punishment they suggest for that daughter-in-law? Can they agree for the same kind of punishment in a reverse scenario? Can they see a woman in that Mother-in-law?

Press Release: Launching Andhra Pradesh Mother-in-law Protection Association

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Launch of Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association (APMPA)

Venue: Public Gardens, Opposite Jubilee Hall, Hyderabad, AP

Date and Time: 18 October 2009, 11:00 a.m. to 1:00 p.m.

Written by Uma Challa

Mothers-in-law in our country are being severely discriminated against, neglected and subjected to all forms of domestic abuse over the last decade. Unless provisions are made to protect mothers-in-law from discrimination, domestic violence, and legal harassment, and unless steps are taken to ensure their welfare during their post-menopausal years, we will witness serious deterioration in the health conditions of aging women in the country, and reduction in their life span.

Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association (APMPA) is the first ever social forum created to protect the rights and interests of mothers-in-law in Andhra Pradesh. APMPA is the Andhra Pradesh chapter of All India Mothers-in-law Protection Forum ( which was launched on 6 September 2009 in Bangalore, followed by the launch of local chapters in Delhi, Nagpur and Lucknow.

Mothers-in-law have historically been portrayed as evil and bloodthirsty by media and popular culture. However, it is a scientifically and also statistically established fact that mothers-in-law are unnecessarily maligned and subjected to discrimination by the society.

The National Family Health Survey (NFHS) ( Vol-1 Page 500) has conclusively established that a woman in the age group of 15-49 years of age faces 8 times more violence from her own mother compared to her mother-in-law. 13.7% women have faced violence from their own mother as compared to 1.7% women who have faced from their mothers-in-law.

Recent Research has shown that “daughters-in-law are programmed to hate mothers-in-law”. This is one of the most important causes of the stereotyping of mothers-in-law in the society.

Mothers-in-law are being discriminated against in spite of their generosity just for the sin of giving birth to sons and getting them married. They are being forced to part with their earnings, savings and inherited wealth and they are being thrown out of their own property at the behest of a disgruntled daughter-in-law. They are losing their mental peace and health, and many a time even their husbands and sons to untimely death or suicide when daughters-in-law indulge in making false allegations and defamation of the husband’s family. In many instances, the mothers-in-law themselves commit suicide.

Mothers -in-law in India face severe abuse from daughters-in-law:

  • Physical harassment including assault, locking up the mother-in-law in a room, denying food and medication etc.
  • Mental harassment including taunts, allegations, caustic comments, threatening to file police cases, disallowing communication with her son, grandchildren, defaming her and her family etc.
  • Verbal harassment including name calling, insulting, abusing, etc.
  • Economic abuse including extorting her money and wealth, throwing her out of her own house and forcibly occupying the house, etc.
  • Legal harassment including inciting the police to threaten her, filing false cases under Dowry Prohibition Act, IPC Section 498A, Domestic Violence Act, and other related sections, sending her to jail or forcing her to run around the court for years together.
  • Driving mothers-in-law to commit suicide.

The National Family Health Survey, conducted by the Ministry of Family Health and Welfare only counts women between the ages of 15-49 as women. Mothers-in-law who fall in the age bracket above 49 do not count as women, and their health and welfare is not a matter of concern for the Government of India.

While there are close to 15 laws that provide protection to daughters-in-law, mothers-in-law do not have any societal support or legal protection from any form of discrimination or abuse.

In the last four years, over 1,23,497 women, most of them being mothers-in-law, have been arrested under IPC Section 498A alone, without evidence or investigation, not for committing any crime under law, but only because they were related to a man.

Noted women’s rights activist Madhu Kishwar acknowledged that IPC Section 498A is heavily misused, and that a significant proportion of individuals who approach “Manushi” these days are mothers-in-law and husbands who are falsely accused of marital cruelty and dowry harassment.

Renowned IPS officer Kiran Bedi admitted that many poor and illiterate mothers-in-law, who are falsely charged under anti-dowry laws, are languishing in prison every year.

Several elderly women, falsely accused under IPC Section 498A (for the only crime of mothering sons and getting the sons married) approached the National Commission for Women, seeking justice. These women have long heart-rending accounts of how they are being harassed by their daughters-in-law. The NCW’s short, yet prompt and candid response to these mothers was, “Your matter does not fall under the mandate of the Commission”.

Similarly, in June 2009, a 45 year old mother-in-law was arrested in a dowry harassment case filed by her daughter-in-law. The poor lady was allegedly gang-raped in police custody, in Bhopal. The news, which was reported in leading newspapers, went completely unnoticed by the NCW or any other women’s organization that harps about fighting atrocities against women. No panel was set up. No probe was initiated and no action has been taken against this brutality perpetrated against a mother-in-law.

On 8 October 2009, a news report described the gut-wrenching tale of a 75-year-old mother-in-law, Jiwan Devi, who is another victim of societal and legal bias against mothers-in-law. Holding back her tears, here is what she said to the journalist who visited her:

“What is the point?…I and my sons were in jail for four years before we were acquitted. And my grandchildren were at the mercy of our neighbours and distant relatives. Why?… My granddaughter is 19. While all her friends are in college, she is still in class 11. This happened only because there was no one to take care of them while we were in jail. They were also in deep shock”’

There are thousands of Jiwan Devis in this country, whose lives have been destroyed, just for having given life to sons. These are the women whose woes do not fall under the agenda of the Ministry for Women and Child Development, the National Commission for Women, or any other related women’s organization, and they have nowhere to go to seek help and support for problems specifically affecting them.

APMPA will work towards the protection and welfare of such mothers-in-law in distress by creating awareness, giving them moral support and counseling. We will also urge the government to reform the present “wife-centric” domestic violence laws and demand equal protection for mothers-in-law from domestic violence.

The helpline numbers of the Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association are 9704683163, 9573605415. Mothers-in-law facing harassment from their daughters-in-law can contact these numbers.

Chris Rock – Women, Lies & Relationships

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Invitation to Dharna Against Legal Terrorism

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Is the pain of a mother / sister less when she her son / brother dies than when her daughter / sister dies?

Save Indian Family Foundation invites you to a peaceful protest against the rampant and blatant misuse of pro-women marital laws against men resulting in large scale suicides of married men.

Our Demands:-

  1. Clear the Pendency of cases in Family Courts.
  2. Give more judges and more Family Courts.
  3. Make all gender biased marital laws Gender Neutral.
  4. Check misuse of these laws.
  5. Stop Treating Men as FREE ATM MACHINES
  6. Check High Rate of suicides of married men.
  7. Establish National Commission for Men, and
  8. Men’s Welfare Ministry,

To address the above problems as well as scores of others.

Date: 14 February 2009

Time: 9: 30 AM to 2: 00 PM

Venue: In front of Gandhi Statue on M.G. Road, Bangalore

Invitees: All citizens of India.

Supported by:-

  1. Save Family Foundation, Delhi
  2. MyNation Foundation, Delhi
  3. Gender Human Rights Society, Delhi
  4. Rakshak Foundation, Delhi
  5. Mother’s and Sister’s Initiative, Delhi
  6. Protect Indian Family Foundation, Mumbai
  7. Indiya Kudumba Pathukappu Iyakkam Chennai
  8. All India Forgotten Women, Hyderabad
  9. Rishtey, Hyderabad
  10. Save Indian Family Foundation, Nagpur
  11. 11. Bharat Bachao Sangathan, Kolkata.


Virag – 9986378801 (English)

Panduranga Katti – 9432853272 (English)

Shiva Shankara – 9743183369 (Kannada)

Prakash – 9880436929 (Kannada)

9342853272 9845143274

Legal Terrorism claims two in Bangalore

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Two committed suicide due to the harassment by Wife (Vijaya Karnataka).

In one incident wife picked up fight for silly reason and went to her sister house, depressed husband ended his life in Hongasandra and in another incident wife’s behavior of leading luxurious life was the reason for another suicide by husband who was taxi driver.

Incident 1

Balu (35) resident of Hongasandra was a painter. He has been married for past 12 years and had two children.

Both husband-wife frequently indulged in fights. Two days before Balu’s wife had gone to her sister house after a quarrel with her husband.  The disheartened Balu went to his mother and told that he was deeply hurt by this incident and wanted to end his life. His mother consoled and advised him not to do so.

But, after returning to his house, after 10:30pm Balu had tried to commit suicide by hanging himself, but fell down as the rope got cut. Due to respiration problem he passed away after few minutes.  When wife returned back on Wednesday afternoon at 1:30 pm she gave complaint to police regarding husbands suicide.

Incident 2

A.M Jagadish Singh (45) committed suicide. The reason of this incident was illicit behavior of wife by which she wanted to lead a lavish and luxurious life made the husband to end his life by committing suicide.

Both husband-wife always indulged in quarrel. On Wednesday morning when the wife went to drop her daughter to tution, the husband has committed sucide.

Men- Beware of Marriage

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We are born in a society where marriage is treated as sacrosanct, something which was fixed in heaven. It is a relationship valid not only in this life but also in lives yet to come. Nevertheless, this relationship is changing and law has played a very important role in altering this relationship. The legislature drafted these laws to protect the vulnerable women in the relationship, but while doing that didn’t keep in consideration abuse of these laws by not so vulnerable women. The judiciary, while sympathizing with the tears of women, didn’t recognize the fact that these may be crocodile tears. Due to these reasons these laws has become a tool to harass husbands, extort money from husbands and their family, to torture hapless women of the husbands family. In short, these laws have made marriage more a legal relationship than a social relationship.

The law presumes, everybody knows laws. Marriage is a voluntary relationship, in the sense that till this point of time there is no law which can compel a man to marry (although in practice some women have compel men to marry them by leveling false allegation of rape against them. The recent case of suicide by an ex-Army officer is a cse in point where the man committed suicide due to pressure to marriage and in case of denial threat of false cases.). Thus every man must know the legal provisions before he enters into the legal relationship of marriage. If he enters without knowing these provisions, he cannot blame any other persons for that. However, it is the duty of legal practitioners and social workers to make tem aware of these laws so that nobody enters into a legal relationship of marriage without knowing its implications.

Slowly and steadily the number of law governing the relationship between husband and wife is increasing. One thing is common in all laws- they are prejudiced and biased against the men in the sense that they give rights only to the wives and imposes duties only to the husband. Further the language of the law is such that it facilitates abuse of these laws against the husband and his family members. And in fact also the wives are systematically abusing these laws. These laws were primarily designed to protect the vulnerable women in our society but the working of these laws suggest that they have become more a weapon of harassment and extortion in the hand of not so vulnerable women.

The Hindu Marriage Act and the Hindu Adoption and Maintenance Act impose a duty upon the husband to maintain their wife. However a person can claim maintenance only if he/she is not able to maintain himself/herself. The term is ability or potential to maintain and not mere inability to maintain at any point of time. However, a survey of the judgments will clearly shows that even when the wife was able bodies and educated then also the courts have granted maintenance. Further, these two Acts are not sufficient and the Criminal Court is empowered to grant maintenance as per section 125 of the Code of Criminal Procedure. More Acts for the same relief means that the wife has more avenues to harass a husband through the process of Court. We can see that a wife has a right to maintenance- but what is her duty. Law says nothing. If she abuses the husband, then also she can claim maintenance. If she beats her mother-in-law, then also she can claim maintenance. Thus a wife has no duty, only rights.

Just maintenance is not something to be very worried about. What is more important that the wife has been given power to send the husband and his family members to the prison at wish? Under section 498A of the Indian Penal Code a wife can complain that she has been treated with cruelty for dowry and name anybody in the relatives of the husband. What is cruelty or what is dowry, nobody knows. A gift to husband is dowry but a gift to wife is streedhan. A husband should not demand any consideration for marriage, but a girl has a right to look for a wealthy husband with a fat pay packet; it is not dowry, it is pragmatism. The law says giving dowry is as criminal as taking dowry, the wife screams that she has given dowry, but the law does not take any action against her- this is women empowerment. Under this Section octogenarian grand mom of husbands are being prosecuted for harassment- this is power of wife.

Just these are not sufficient. If your wife commits suicide, invariably you will be prosecuted under Section 304B of the IPC. Here, even the prosecution has not prove many thing, Section 113A is there in the Evidence Act to presume your guilt. When men commit suicide, the law is silent. After all men can commit suicide for so many reasons- wife can commit suicide only after harassment by husband and his family. So what, the suicide statistics shows that more men commit suicide.

Once any of these cases are registered against you few things are certain-like you are likely to loose your job. You will be merely suspended if you are in government service. You will spend a couple of months in jail before the bail. In jail too you will have full company of your family members. Finally, you will be granted bail and the trial begins. What will happen in trial, I don’t know. Let us read a news article in TOI, dated 24-10-2005, which clearly shows that view of the Court towards men vis-ä-vis women;

Two men who were accused of raping a minor were set free by a court after the victim claimed she was major and loved an accused. The judge said, The prosecutrix deposed that the complaint was lodged under pressure.

The report is silent as any inquiry was made by the court as to why these persons were maliciously prosecuted. Who claimed that the victim is minor? Whether any action was taken by the state to punish the persons who played with the liberty of these innocent men. Excuse of pressure by a women is sufficient to not order any enquiry even in the case of gang rape of minor, what sort of enquiry a man can expect in case of a false complaint of harassment for dowry. And the state is not even interested in knowing as who were the persons who pressurized this women to file false charge. So what, if some men commits suicide after false charge of rape like the driver of ICAR recently.

Indian Criminal Justice system is totally biased against the accused. That is why making allegation in India has become an industry. It is a tool of legal extortion in the hand of police and false accusers.

Well, the purpose of this article is merely informing the worse half of the population the legal consequence of marriage and their vulnerably, if they decide to marry. Difficult to imagine-even now men marry. In any case old habits die hard. There is no solution. We are living in Rule of Law and when the law is tyrannical and prejudiced, you cannot have a solution. But, the risk can be reduced by taking recourse to written contract at the time of marriage.

It is a good idea to enter into written contract at the time of marriage with your would be wife. No law prohibits such type of contract. The contract can make provisions for expenses of marriage ceremony, list of gifts received, the couple decision regarding maintenance, child custody and all other items, which the couple feels necessary to incorporate in the written contract. It may seem nauseating to introduce the idea of contract in marriage, but it is better as law has already entered into marriage. Written contract is just one mutually agreed way to reduce the rigor of falsehood in deposition before the court. It is better to catch up a lawyer before the police catch up with you.

(Views expressed are personal views of the author (Not Mine, though, I agree). The original author may be contacted on rk1771[AT]gmail[DOT]com)

Rajesh Kumar

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